cure premature ejaculation
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In that situation, it’s my job, it’s my job to explain either in couple counseling or in counseling to the woman that premature ejaculation is a problem over which a man really doesn’t have that much control. We all probably know the old story of think about baseball. Think about something that’s unrelated to sex while you’re having sex. Well, it doesn’t work.
Men are too embarrassed to talk about premature ejaculation so as I said earlier, only about 12% ever address it with a doctor and what they do often is they listen to other guys boast about their prowess and their great abilities in bed to have intercourse two or three times a night and to have their girlfriend or wife jumping off the walls. Usually this kind of bravado is self-fulfilling and nothing more than that. It’s usually just bravado. But when a man who ejaculates in 1.8 minutes hears these kinds of stories, it leads to embarrassment and a sense of weakness and a sense that they’re a poor lover and it can be extraordinarily hurtful to their relationship.
As I alluded to earlier, I like to do couple counseling because I like to make women aware that men do not have control over this from a perspective of simply thinking about it and trying to last longer. Ejaculation is a reflex. That means that we have all had experience with being at the doctor when they tap your knee with the reflex hammer and if they hit the right spot, absolutely nothing on earth can keep your leg from springing forward. Well, it’s the same with ejaculation. Once a man is sufficiently aroused and the penis and the penal head, called the glans penis, when the man is sufficiently aroused and the glans penis, an orgasmic reflex has begun and it cannot be stopped. And men are unable to time that; they’re unable to suppress that.
However, unlike the reflex at the knee, there’s some good news. And that’s what I like to explain to couples as well. The good news was found fortuitously. The good news was found accidentally. Beginning about two decades ago, as newer anti-depressant medicines were being discovered, a class of drugs emerged that was called the SSRI’s – Sam Sam R-I’s. That stood for Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors. Now, serotonin is a chemical in our brain. It’s a natural chemical in our brain and these selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, they didn’t make us feel intoxicated, they didn’t make us feel drugged. They simply delayed how quickly our body broke down our natural serotonin into the chemicals that it consisted of so that we normally have this serotonin bath going on in our brain and it’s being broken down all the time. It’s being manufactured and it’s being broken down.
And we theorize that in people who are depressed, it’s either a less-than-effective serotonin or a less-than-adequate amount of serotonin. But nonetheless, the problem leads to depression and a lack of a sense of fulfillment or happiness.
Well, these new medicines simply allowed a normal chemical, a normal, natural chemical that we were making every day, to build up at a higher level in our brain. And when our brain was bathed in this higher level of serotonin, we, as people felt a sense of wellbeing. We felt a better sense of completeness. We felt some happiness. Well, ironically, patients who had been suffering from depression who also were suffering from premature ejaculation came in and started reporting to doctors that they were having trouble ejaculating.
In that situation, it’s my job, it’s my job to explain either in couple counseling or in counseling to the woman that premature ejaculation is a problem over which a man really doesn’t have that much control. We all probably know the old story of think about baseball. Think about something that’s unrelated to sex while you’re having sex. Well, it doesn’t work.
Men are too embarrassed to talk about premature ejaculation so as I said earlier, only about 12% ever address it with a doctor and what they do often is they listen to other guys boast about their prowess and their great abilities in bed to have intercourse two or three times a night and to have their girlfriend or wife jumping off the walls. Usually this kind of bravado is self-fulfilling and nothing more than that. It’s usually just bravado. But when a man who ejaculates in 1.8 minutes hears these kinds of stories, it leads to embarrassment and a sense of weakness and a sense that they’re a poor lover and it can be extraordinarily hurtful to their relationship.
As I alluded to earlier, I like to do couple counseling because I like to make women aware that men do not have control over this from a perspective of simply thinking about it and trying to last longer. Ejaculation is a reflex. That means that we have all had experience with being at the doctor when they tap your knee with the reflex hammer and if they hit the right spot, absolutely nothing on earth can keep your leg from springing forward. Well, it’s the same with ejaculation. Once a man is sufficiently aroused and the penis and the penal head, called the glans penis, when the man is sufficiently aroused and the glans penis, an orgasmic reflex has begun and it cannot be stopped. And men are unable to time that; they’re unable to suppress that.
However, unlike the reflex at the knee, there’s some good news. And that’s what I like to explain to couples as well. The good news was found fortuitously. The good news was found accidentally. Beginning about two decades ago, as newer anti-depressant medicines were being discovered, a class of drugs emerged that was called the SSRI’s – Sam Sam R-I’s. That stood for Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors. Now, serotonin is a chemical in our brain. It’s a natural chemical in our brain and these selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors, they didn’t make us feel intoxicated, they didn’t make us feel drugged. They simply delayed how quickly our body broke down our natural serotonin into the chemicals that it consisted of so that we normally have this serotonin bath going on in our brain and it’s being broken down all the time. It’s being manufactured and it’s being broken down.
And we theorize that in people who are depressed, it’s either a less-than-effective serotonin or a less-than-adequate amount of serotonin. But nonetheless, the problem leads to depression and a lack of a sense of fulfillment or happiness.
Well, these new medicines simply allowed a normal chemical, a normal, natural chemical that we were making every day, to build up at a higher level in our brain. And when our brain was bathed in this higher level of serotonin, we, as people felt a sense of wellbeing. We felt a better sense of completeness. We felt some happiness. Well, ironically, patients who had been suffering from depression who also were suffering from premature ejaculation came in and started reporting to doctors that they were having trouble ejaculating.
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